Technology innovation—of any kind—is complex. Implementing it is even more complex.
Despite what vendor sales teams might promise, implementation rarely goes according to plan. It typically takes twice as long, costs twice as much, and demands far more planning, collaboration, and internal change readiness than the slide decks account for.

And yet, in environments that prize speed and rapid decision-making, there’s often little space for pausing with intention. But what I’ve found—over and over again—is that one of the most effective leadership moves can feel counterintuitive:

• To breathe.
• To create just enough space to learn from what’s unfolding.
• To invite a more meaningful conversation about what’s actually at stake.

This kind of presence doesn’t delay action—it grounds it.
It helps ensure that what moves forward is informed, aligned, and built for what’s truly needed.

Because what automation can’t automate is the inner work—
The capacity to notice when we’re being pulled into reactivity.
The ability to self-regulate our fight-or-flight patterns.
And most of all, the willingness to face what the complexity is asking us to learn.

Learning—real learning—is unnerving to the nervous system.
It isn’t tidy. It doesn’t fit in the plan.
And often, our instinct is to shut it down before it can fully arrive.

But pausing long enough to meet that learning moment with wisdom—inspite feeling the panic and pressure—is how we build the kind of leadership our current reality demands.

I hear it often in my coaching sessions with executive and senior leaders:

“I don’t know what I’m doing. I mean—I do. But also, I don’t.”

It’s not a breakdown.
It’s a turning point. A quiet truth rising to the surface.

That realization—when met with presence instead of panic—can shift everything.
Because the deeper invitation isn’t to “figure it out,”

It’s to lead from wisdom when certainty is no longer an option.

With so much technological disruption, so many shifting expectations, and so few clear answers—we’re being pushed into the practice of something we probably should have been doing all along:

• Facilitating meaningful conversations.
• Staying present long enough to be informed by what’s emerging.

Because when we stop trying to control it all—and return to the core purpose behind it technological innovation—something loosens. The goal of all this technology, after all, is to create better experiences for people. For customers. For employees. For the communities we serve.

When we remember that—and relax into that with intention—we create the conditions where emergent, meaningful solutions can actually appear.

Wisdom is the quiet presence we bring when we’re willing to face the challenge itself, rather than our reactive stories about the challenge.
It’s the posture we choose when we realize the map no longer fits the territory.
It’s the willingness to stop spinning and throwing our thoughts at the problem, and instead—let the challenge speak to us.

Wisdom requires a quiet mind. One that’s willing to see fully.
One that listens—deeply, and with curiosity.

In my coaching practice, I often teach a simple but powerful pattern I call the ABCs of Leading from Wisdom:

A – Awareness
First, you have to notice that you’re in a reactive pattern.
Maybe it’s the urgency to fix, the tightening in your chest, the inner monologue that says, “I should already know how to do this.”
That moment of noticing isn’t failure. It’s the beginning of choice.

B – Breathe
Not a performative breath. A real one.
A breath that signals to your nervous system: We are safe. We have space.
This resets your physiological state and opens the door to clarity.

C – Curiosity
From here, you ask:
What else might be happening here?
What’s needed—not just from me, but from this moment?
What do I not know yet—and what’s okay about that?
What is this situation informing us of?
How is this situation educating us?

This is the shift from control to learning. From rushing to resolve, to making space for insight.
It’s a return to presence—not to fix the problem immediately, but to let it show us something first.

This practice re-engages our prefrontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for learning, strategic thinking, empathy, and creative problem-solving.

And that’s critical. Because in today’s climate, learning is everything.

When leaders operate from fear, learning shuts down.
Teams stop offering ideas. Feedback gets suppressed. Innovation stalls.

If we want teams that can learn, adapt, and grow together in real time, then emotional self-regulation isn’t a “nice-to-have.”

Emotional Self Regulation is foundational. It’s what makes high performance possible in complexity.

Most leaders feel the gap.
They know when they’re in performance mode—delivering polished messages while spinning inside.
They’re afraid to delegate, afraid to admit what they don’t know, afraid they’ll lose credibility if they show too much.

But what I’ve learned over and over again is this:

The most effective leaders aren’t the ones with all the answers. They’re the ones who can stay present—even when they don’t have them yet.

They don’t disappear.
They don’t shut down.
They don’t scramble for control.

Instead—
They stay in the conversation.
They name what’s real.
They create space for others to think, feel, and contribute alongside them.

That’s not a soft skill.

That’s our innate wisdom in action.
And it’s how transformation becomes possible.

You’re not behind. You’re not alone.

If any of this feels familiar, you’re not doing it wrong.
You’re doing the real work.

So much of leadership right now is about unlearning the old signals of strength—
and remembering that wisdom doesn’t come from certainty. It comes from quiet presence, from willingness, and from the courage to stay with what’s real.

That’s what automation can’t automate.
And it’s what leadership is asking of us now.

More soon in this series.
For now, I’d love to hear:
What helps you stay grounded when the answers aren’t clear?

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